Why the Anger?

From the same comment here broken out since it’s a different topic.

“Connie” had asked “Why the anger?” in regards to what the manospherians had related to her. These are some of my thoughts on where the pain and anger is coming from:

You’d asked originally “why the anger?” As others have alluded to earlier, where you’ll find a lot of the anger is men who’ve been told that “being nice”, attentive, and supplicating to a woman’s needs and desires was the way to win a woman’s heart, when in point of fact nothing could be further from the truth.

You can see this in men who’ve been searching for a partner and who do everything they’ve been told would lead to a spouse, kids, and the white picket fence. Time goes by, nothing works, and years down the road they finally figure out all that “good guy” behavior was actually repellent instead of attractive, and that the reason all the bad-boys and jerks “got the girls” is because the women were drawn to the bad-boy’s “alpha” behavior, even when it was clear the guy would never love her.

For these “good guys” who did “everything right” – what price can you put on lost opportunity? Or dreams of a family that never came to pass because all the institutions you trusted didn’t tell you the truth about how inter-gender relations actually worked? Or of men who become victim of social structures (like no-fault divorce) which actually encourages a woman to detonate the family, take a man’s kids, a good portion of his wealth, and put him in the poorhouse while she gets most of the assets?

 

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3 responses to “Why the Anger?”

  1. Stingray says :

    Thank you for all the linkage, ANO. I really appreciate it.

    I hope Connie found that thread helpful.

  2. ANorthernObserver says :

    You’re welcome! Your corner of the manosphere produced some pretty constructive discussion, for which I’m thankful.

    From what Connie wrote, I think she got a lot out of the conversation – most notably a better understanding of what she wandered into the middle of with no advance warning.

    And – congrats on being my first commenter! 🙂

  3. Stingray says :

    Thanks!

    Yes, Connie got blindsided. I think she stuck to it though. That had to be difficult.

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