Sex Grudges or the Importance of Determined Enthusiasm

In “Sex Grudges”, blogger “Sis” starts with bad feelings in the bedroom and then expands the post to discuss other matters of import before she gets to what I consider the “pure gold” of the post:

It is more important to keep trying than it is to give up after failures.

When you get hurt, it’s more important to forgive, forget, and try again than it is to defend yourself.

My husband cares more about my showing up in bed in a negligee wanting to have sex with him than he cares about my actual technique.

If I try to bake his favorite dessert, it is more important I tried than if I burnt it into a charred mess.

When I feel my soul dying in the marriage, it is more important to sit him down for a heart to heart or fight than it is to “selflessly” hold it in and turn cold.

It is more important that you are doing everything you can to eat right and look beautiful for him than it is that you actually lose the weight.

He wants to know you love him and trying and showing up repeatedly is the best way to prove that.


While a man can easily buy proficiency in cooking and related skills, there’s no price that one can put on heart-felt determined enthusiasm in a partner.


About A Northern Observer

Joe Random Guy who lives north of a lot of things. My image is from the National Archives - Battle of Britain - Aircraft spotter on the roof of a building in London. St. Paul's Cathedral is in the background. 306-NT-901B-3.

One response to “Sex Grudges or the Importance of Determined Enthusiasm”

  1. Sis says :

    Thank you!!

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